Clare Gyde Counselling
Face to face or online video therapy sessions in Surbiton, Surrey.
You do not have to struggle alone or in silence.
Hello, I'm Clare,
An Experienced Counsellor Offering Counselling Therapy In Surbiton, Surrey.
I See People Struggling With Depression, Anxiety, Low Self-Esteem, Trauma, Bereavement, And Relationship Difficulties Amongst Other Issues.
If you feel you might benefit from talking confidentially to a professional, Person-Centred counsellor in a private, safe space then maybe I can help?
I follow a strict code of ethics and your dignity and well-being are my priority. I entirely respect your autonomy.
Life can leave us feeling 'bruised'. You don't need me to tell you that... Things can sometimes feel confusing, difficult, painful, sad and so much more, and sometimes we just need to talk and not be judged - however impossible it may seem to find the words; together we can try.
I offer a down-to-earth, unshockable and most importantly - empathic approach to our sessions. I am warm and friendly and work easily with young adults, elderly people and everyone in-between.
Wherever you are you do not deserve to struggle alone or in silence.
I have weekly online video sessions with clients as far away as Pakistan, Greece, Scotland, and various parts of the UK.
However, the majority of my clients I see are face to face.
My practice is very close to Surbiton train station, Kingston train station and is easily accessible by walking or driving. There is parking directly outside my work place.
There is also a bus stop very close by.
Google maps: https://tinyurl.com/5n97vphu
Take Time To Find A Good Match...
Once you have taken the huge step to find a counsellor - it is essential you find someone that fits you and your personality; a professional you feel you may be able to open up to and trust with your deepest, most private intimate feelings of pain, anger, sadness and confusion.
There may be some fears, there may be some tears, but it's also ok for us to laugh together occasionally if it feels right.
Life is a serious business - but as we all know the irony of certain situations seems so contradictory or bizarre, they almost become humorous.
Our working relationship is co-created and I will invite you to be as open with me in the moment as you possibly can be, as I will be with you.
Let's have a chat...
I encourage us to have a 20/30 minutes talk on the phone or video call - free of charge - before arranging our first session together.
This may help you get a sense of me, and whether you feel I would be a good fit for you.
Please email, text or call me to arrange.
E: info @claregyde.com
M: 0770 8888 270
"The therapeutic relationship is as powerful, if not more powerful than the particular treatment method the therapist is using."
(i.e. the modality of counselling) Professor John C. Norcross, Society of counselling psychology.
I work face to face and online (Zoom, Whattsapp video), I also offer telephone counselling and talking while walking.
By trying to express our deepest thoughts, feelings and concerns without being judged often helps ease the emotional weight that may be holding us back.
I will not push you to talk about anything you are not ready for. However, I will tentatively encourage you to go deeper and perhaps consider the origins of the feelings you are experiencing.
How do I work?
From the moment we meet and begin our first session - I suggest to you to consider everything that has come before as history.
I would strongly suggest that we look at your past - but not stare at it.
My wish for you is that our first session together is the beginning of something new; some positive hope for your future.
I very much encourage a no-shame zone.
I will remind you (constantly, if needs be), when I notice there is some awkwardness or embarrassment regarding whatever you are trying to express, that you are safe to tell me anything.
Sadly, shame/embarassment/self-blame/ resentment towards others can be such powerful debilitating experiences they can hold us back from moving forwards with our own life.
I do not judge. I cannot emphasise that enough.
I am here to support you and be by your side.
Whatever your wishes are from therapy, I will endeavour to help you get to where you want to be.
Understanding
By sharing your most intimate experiences, concerns and thoughts with a non -judgmental professional can really help you gain further understanding of why we are as we are and react as we do.
Empowerment
I believe therapy is about empowering ourselves with understanding, so we can better comprehend our feelings and behaviours and therefore change or adapt those that have been causing us difficulties.
Empathy
I do not sit with you only from an academic viewpoint.
I, too, have lived through many of life's challenges and entirely understand these can be varied and vast from my professional and personal experiences.
Having doubts?
If you have any queries about counselling - please do get in touch. I will be happy to answer any questions or doubts you may have.
You Matter
I offer one-off sessions, short-term ( 6-8 sessions) or ongoing therapy.
What do I offer you?
My offer to you is years of professional training and experience, authenticity, emotional warmth, kindness, and my full attention.
You will be truly heard, not just listened to, and if you are struggling to express your feelings - I will try my best to help you find the words.
I will regularly check-in with you during our sessions about what you are feeling and thinking. I am all about feelings - and attempting to help you express those, if you may be struggling to or not.
I have a private and quiet room in Surbiton, which is comfortable and easily accessible. The building also has a lift.
What do I specialise in?
I get asked that many times and the answer is emotional pain has many faces.
I see people living with the repercussions of,
- Trauma
- Depression,
- Relationships difficulties,
- Domestic abuse.
- Abandonment issues,
- Anxiety,
- Postnatal depression,
- Infertility,
- Bereavement,
- Health anxiety,
- Identity issues,
- Sexual issues,
- Difficult family dynamics,
- Low self-esteem,
- Confusion, about why life is as it currently
- Disordered eating
I will support you closely while you look inward.
'The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am - then I can change.'
Carl Rogers
Anything you share with me stays confidential.
Confidentiality; your privacy, is one of the main pillars of the therapeutic relationship.
Experience
For four years, I attended the renowned Metanoia Institute for training in counselling and psychotherapy on an accredited course. This was tutor-led.
Part of my rigourous training consisted of 480 hours of client-facing work which was supervised. This means an experienced counsellor that follows the same code of ethics as I do oversaw my counselling work.
- For one year I worked as a counsellor at an organisation in Ealing offering subsidised counselling.
- For four years I worked at Kingston Bereavement Service.
- I also work with the government agency Victim Support.
It is my professional as well as personal duty to do what is called CPD, Continued Personal Development. This means I keep up to date with the latest research for my counselling modality and psychotherapy as a whole.
However difficult things may feel at this time, positive change is always possible.
Often clients tell me that they do not want the pressure of thinking they might be ‘burdening' their loved ones with their situation.
I am here for that.
Testimonials
'Clare is warm and easy to talk to. I feel supported and in safe hands with her. She's helping me so much and I can't recommend her enough.'
Melanie Gross
If you would like to read other testimonials please click the link below. My clients wavered their anonymity of their own volition to write these.
When do I work?
Monday, Tuesday, Thursday and Friday.
Please contact me and we can work out a time and day that works for us both.
Through counselling you will get time to focus entirely on yourself.
I cannot guarantee how long it will take until you start feeling an internal shift as a result of having therapy. There is no magical formula, sadly. You also need to put in some effort between sessions.
However, if you are not feeling some benefits after a number of sessions together - I feel we would need to talk about that.
I do not want to waste your time and money just so we can watch at each other for 50 minutes. The point of therapy is for your own personal growth, right ?
From my experience, people who are committed to change often start feeling the impact of our sessions more quickly than they expected.
I need to mention...
Price / sessions
£55 for a 50 minute session.
Having said that, I am willing to offer a reduced rates on a sliding scale depending on your current situation.
Terms of payment
Payments are due on the day of our arranged session.
Cancellation Policy
If you are unable to attend one of our sessions, please give me 48 hours notice, otherwise the full amount of the session is still payable on the same day as the session was due.
Also, once you decide you feel you have no need for further therapy - and you wish to stop - I would ask that you come along for one final closing session.
Our ending well is as important as our beginning well.
" When the other person is hurting, confused, troubled, anxious, alienated, terrified - or when he or she is doubtful of self-worth, uncertain as to identity, then understanding is called for.
The gentle and sensitive companionship of an empathic stance... provides illumination and healing.
In such situations, deep understanding is, I believe, the most precious gift one can give to another. "
Carl Rogers
