Clare Gyde Counselling

& Life Coach

 

 Face to face or online video  therapy sessions, home visits in and around Surbiton, Surrey.

Hello, I'm Clare, 

A Professional and Experienced Counsellor Offering Counselling Therapy and Life Coaching.
 

If you are struggling with your emotions, from the past that are bleeding into the present, depression, anxiety, low self-esteem, trauma, bereavement, relationship difficulties, and struggling to find direction in your life, amongst other Issues, then maybe I could help you. 

Perhaps your internal world, your home and life feels out of control and you need some practical support to help you move into a happier future - then consider getting on contact.


    What is the difference between a Counsellor and Life Coach?

As a counsellor we focus entirely on your emotions; past, present and your hopes for the future. This has nothing to do with Life Coaching.

I also see couples.

As a Life Coach, this means I can help you in more 'practical', hands-on, suggestive ways to get to where you want to be in your life, without using only counselling as our base-line.

               If you so choose

For Example: We may discuss your eating habits, organising your home,  your concerns about work prospects, sexual behaviours,  drinking habits, feeling lost and unsure about your future and the direction you feel you are heading. Even if you are not happy with your appearance - your over all confidence  - together  we can work very practically to get you to where you'd like to be.

I am based in Surbiton, Surrey, very close to Surbiton and Kingston train stations and is easily accessible by foot, car or bus. There is a bus stop very close and also parking directly outside my practice.
 

 

Life can leave us feeling 'bruised'. 

You don't need me to tell you that. Things can sometimes feel confusing, difficult, painful, impossible,  sad and so much more. I see individual people and also couples, some have no idea how to move forwards and how to improve their daily lives.

 I follow a strict code of ethics. Your dignity, privacy and well-being are my priority and I entirely respect your autonomy. Sometimes we just need to talk to someone, without judgement, who is not a family member or friend. Impossible as it may feel to find the words; together we can try.

I work during the week and also on Saturdays, since I'm aware that some people find it difficult to find time for themselves during the week.

 I am warm and friendly and work easily with young adults, elderly people and everyone in-between. 
I offer a down-to-earth, unshockable and most importantly  - empathic approach to our sessions. 

 

 " The research evidence keeps piling up, and it points strongly to the conclusion that a high degree of empathy in a relationship is possibly the most potent and certainly one of the most potent factors in bringing about change and learning "

Carl Rogers

Experience

For four years, I attended the renowned Metanoia Institute For Training in Counselling And Psychotherapy on an accredited degree course. This was tutor-led.

Part of my rigourous training consisted of 480 hours of client-facing work which was supervised. This means an experienced counsellor that follows the same code of ethics as I do oversaw my counselling work.

  • For one year I worked as a counsellor at an organisation in Ealing offering subsidised counselling.
  • For four years I worked at Kingston Bereavement Service. 
  • I also work with the government agency Victim Support.
  • I am fully DBS checked and frequently visit younger clients  in schools across London.

It is my professional as well as personal duty to do what is called CPD, Continued Personal Development. This means I keep up to date with the latest research for my counselling modality and psychotherapy as a whole.

Wherever You Are, You Do Not Deserve To Struggle Alone Or In Silence. 

I have weekly online video sessions with clients for counselling and life support, as far away as Pakistan, Greece, Scotland, and various parts of the UK.  

Wherever you are  and whatever difficulties you may be going through,  please never undermine them by just ' trying to get on with it'. Life can be difficult; certain decisions can feel impossible to make. - especially without support.

Some times we may benefit from talking to someone who cares, but is not a family member or friend.

The majority of my clients I see are face to face.  Online sessions work very well, but unfortunately I do not see the whole of you and that means at times nonverbal cues can be missed from the shoulders down.

As Therapist, it's usual that you will divulge to me some of your most private thoughts and feelings - and if there is anything you want to know about me - I am happy to answer your questions, otherwise somehow it does not feel a fair relationship.

I'm aware some therapists believe that disclosing anything about themselves is not the done thing - however, I believe if you want to know something about me - this does not take away any level of professionalism, if anything it enables you to trust me more and makes me more relatable and ' human'.

Take Time To Find A Good Match


Once you have taken the huge step to find a counsellor  or   life coach - it is essential you find someone that fits your personality;  a professional you feel you may be able to open up to and grow to trust with your deepest, most private  concerns and intimate feelings.

There may be some fears, there may be some tears.  It is  also ok for us to laugh together occasionally if it feels right.  

Our working relationship is co-created and I will invite you to be as open with me in the moment as you possibly can be, as I will be with you.
 
Why Is It So Essential To Find Someone You Feel Completely At Ease With?

"The therapeutic relationship is as powerful, if not more powerful than the particular treatment method the therapist is using."  
(i.e. the modality of counselling)
 Professor John C. Norcross, Society of counselling psychology.

Let's Have A Chat?

I encourage us to have a 20/30 minutes talk on the phone or video call - free of charge - before arranging our first session together

This may help you  (and your partner, where relevant) to get a sense of me, and whether you feel I would be a  good fit for you.

Please email, text or call me to arrange. 

 

I work face to face and online (Zoom, Whattsapp video, FaceTime),

 I also offer telephone counselling (to individual clients) and talking while walking.  

When working as a Life Coach - it's usual that at some point I may visit you at home - because some people need some very hands-on practical help about how to organise their home/time/ routines.
 

How Do I Work?

 

From the moment we meet and begin our first session - I would suggest you  consider everything that has come before as history.  

If you agree, it may be helpful to look at your past -  but not stare at it. 

By trying to express our deepest thoughts, feelings and concerns without being judged often helps ease the emotional weight that may be holding us back. 

 I will not push you to talk about anything you are not ready for.  I follow your wishes and desires for your life. However, I will tentatively encourage you to go deeper and perhaps consider the origins of the feelings you are  experiencing.

 

My wish for you is that our first session together is the beginning of something new; some positive hope for your future.

 Anything you share with me stays confidential. 

Confidentiality; your privacy, is one of the main pillars of the therapeutic relationship.


Whatever your wishes are from therapy, or life support, I will endeavour to help you get to where you want to be. If you are not sure where that is exactly -  together perhaps we can work it out. 

 
I Very Much Encourage A No-Shame Zone.

I will remind you (constantly, if needs be), when I notice there is some awkwardness or embarrassment regarding whatever you are trying to express, that you are safe to tell me anything. 

In the years I've been in this profession - I have yet to be shocked by anything anyone has told me or shown me.


Sadly, shame/embarassment/self-blame/ resentment towards others can be such powerful debilitating experiences they can hold us back from moving forwards with our own life. 
 

I Am Here To Support You 

Understanding

When sharing our most intimate experiences, concerns and thoughts with a non -judgmental professional can really             help us gain further understanding of why we are as we are, and react as we do.  

I do not judge. I cannot emphasise that enough. 

Empowerment

I believe therapy and helping another person get to where they want to be in their life, whether that's about organisation, future plans, concerns about certain behaviours - the list goes on...  

Talking to a trained professional is about empowering ourselves with understanding so we can better comprehend our own feelings, reactions, and behaviours. 

This enables us to change or adapt those attitudes or behaviours that may have been causing us difficulties.

Empathy

I do not sit with you only from an academic viewpoint.


 I, too, have lived through many of life's challenges and  entirely understand these can be varied and vast from my professional and personal experiences.

 

Having doubts?

If you have any queries about Counselling or Life Coaching, please do get in touch.

 I will be happy to answer any questions or doubts you may have. 

You Matter

If you would like a one-off session, short-term (4, 6, 8, sessions) or ongoing therapy, everything is possible.

 The decision is entirely yours. Once we begin I'm certain you will discover what feels right for you.

   What Do I Offer You?

My offer to you is years of professional training and experience, authenticity, emotional warmth, kindness, my full attention and a safe, private, comfortable space in which to express yourself.

You will be truly heard, not just listened to, and if you are struggling to identify your feelings - I will try my best to help you find the words.  

If I come to your home because you feel overwhelmed by your situation,  I can assure you that I am there by your side in an absolutely non-judgemental way. 

 I want to help you.

I will regularly check-in with you during our sessions about what you are feeling and thinking, and how you feel our sessions are going.

However, I feel it is important to say that I do not diagnose people.  Some clients come to see me with self-assessed labels or ones that have been given to them by others. 

I do not corroborate these and focus entirely on the internal world of the individual in front of me. 


  "Labels, can do violence to people. You can't treat the label; you have to treat the person behind the label."  
  - Irvin D. Yalom. 
 

What Do I Specialise In?

I get asked that many times and the answer is emotional pain has many faces.

 I see people living with the repercussions of,

  • Trauma  
  • Depression,
  • Relationships difficulties, 
  • Domestic abuse.
  • Abandonment issues,
  • Anxiety,
  • Postnatal depression,
  • Infertility,
  • Bereavement,
  • Health anxiety,
  • Identity issues,
  • Sexual issues,
  • Difficult family dynamics,
  • Low self-esteem,
  • Confusion, about why life is as it currently 
  • Disordered eating
  • Unable to keep on top of their household
  • Unsure of the future/work/relationships
  • Concerns about sexual behaviours

However Difficult Things May Feel At This Time, Positive Change Is Possible.


Often clients tell me that they do not want the pressure of thinking they might be ‘burdening' their loved ones with their situation. 

Some couples also feel they have no one to turn to about their intimate, personal issues, which leaves them isolated and unsure.

I am here for that. 


 "The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am -  then I can change."

                                      Carl Rogers
 
  A New Person In An Old Life. 

 " This experience is common for clients who have achieved a turnaround in their attitude to their self. Previously they will have built a life around them that reflected their lack of self-acceptance. 

They may have been self-defeating, over-submissive and under-valuing of their own abilities. When self-acceptance is achieved all these things can now change."   - Dave Mearns
 
Testimonials


 'Clare is warm and easy to talk to. I feel supported and in safe hands with her. She's helping me so much and I can't recommend her enough.' 
 Melanie Gross
 

If you would like to read other testimonials please click the link below. My clients wavered their anonymity of their own volition to write these. 

        https://tinyurl.com/5n8p7uns

 

When Do I Work?

Monday, Wednesday, Friday and Saturday.

Please contact me and we can work out a time and day that works for us both.

During Counselling And/Or Life Coaching, You Have Time To Focus Entirely On Yourself And Your Own Desires For The Future.

I cannot guarantee how long it will take until you  start feeling an internal shift  as a result of having therapy, whether that is Counselling or Life Coaching. There is no magical formula, sadly. 

You also need to put in some effort between sessions.

However, if you are not feeling some benefits after a number of sessions together - I feel we would need to talk about that. I do not want to waste your time and money. 

The point of all this is growth, right ?

 From my experience, people who are committed to change often start feeling the impact of our sessions more quickly than they expected.

 I Need To Mention...

Price / Sessions

  £55 for Counselling for individual clients.

  £70 for couples.

Life Coaching - please let me know what you feel you need and we will discuss the fee.

Having said that, I am willing to offer a reduced rates on a sliding scale depending on your current situation.

Sessions are 50 minutes. Life Coaching sessions are often longer, especially if a home visit is involved.
 
Terms Of Payment
Payments are due on the day of our arranged session.
Cancellation Policy
If you are unable to attend one of our sessions, please give me 48 hours notice, otherwise the full amount of the session is still payable on the same day as the session was due.

Also, once you decide you feel you have no need for further therapy - and you wish to stop -  I would ask that you come along for one final closing session. 

 Our Ending Well Is As Important As Our Beginning Well.

  " When the other person is hurting, confused, troubled, anxious, alienated, terrified - or when he or she is doubtful of self-worth, uncertain as to identity, then understanding is called for. 

The gentle and sensitive companionship of an empathic stance... provides illumination and healing. 

In such situations, deep understanding is, I believe, the most precious gift one can give to another. " 

                                      Carl Rogers 

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